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Meet Tom, the incredible 18-year-old dad from Yorkshire who lost his sight in a catastrophic firework accident last Nove...
02/09/2026

Meet Tom, the incredible 18-year-old dad from Yorkshire who lost his sight in a catastrophic firework accident last November and is now training for the TCS London Marathon 2027.

Over the weekend, Tom’s road to London picked up a mountain, a podcast and a few thousand lads along the way 👀👊

Becoming a dad at 18 is life-changing on its own.

Tom was preparing for that change when, the day before his partner Sophie’s 12-week scan, the accident happened.

He suffered severe burns and injuries to his face, eyes, neck and hands and was airlifted to hospital.

He survived.

But he lost his sight.

The final photograph shows Tom bandaged in hospital after the blast. His injuries were considerably more severe than the photograph shows, but Tom has chosen to keep the more graphic images private. Please swipe with care.

Since then, Tom and Sophie have welcomed a beautiful baby girl, while Tom and his mum, Danni, have begun training for London together.

Danni has become his guide runner and will complete all 26.2 miles alongside him.

What Danni is taking on is enormous too. She will be there through every training mile, every setback and, ultimately, every step of the marathon.

Mum and Son are taking on London to raise money for Royal National Institute for the Blind.

The charity supported Tom after he lost his sight and he has described that support as “absolutely amazing”. He wants to give something back and help other people facing sight loss receive that support too.

They began with 3.5 kilometres.

Then five.

Now they are chasing PBs and building towards London together.

One of our team, Gav , joined Tom, Danni and her partner Ryan last weekend for one of their training runs.

Gav was completing his own daily 5k as part of a year-long challenge raising money for James’ Place UK in memory of our mate and Lads’ Advice co-founder, Corporal Steve Hughes

During those five kilometres, he met the lad beyond the headline.

Tom is funny.

He is smart.

He is sharp, thoughtful, emotionally intelligent and ambitious.

He reads people quickly, gives as good as he gets when the banter starts and has absorbed an extraordinary amount of change without allowing it to swallow his personality.

The accident changed life for everybody around him. His family have had to adapt to that change alongside him.

Tom has learned, at extraordinary speed, to navigate his own new reality while understanding what the people he loves have been dealing with too.

That emotional intelligence is unusual at 18.

Life has thrown plenty at Tom and, so far, his answer has been: game on.

Tom’s blindness matters. Of course it does.

It has changed how he navigates the world and means running now requires enormous trust and communication.

But it is also just one part of his life.

It is not the full measure of him.

Tom didn’t come across as somebody waiting to be helped.

He came across as somebody ready to make an impact, with plenty to offer.

So when Lads’ Advice Snowdon 2026 came up, we asked whether he fancied joining us.

His initial response was:

“Why would I want to do that? I can’t see the view at the top, can I?”

Fair point 😂

He is now mega keen.

Snowdon will be the first real mountain Tom has ever climbed.

No metaphor required.

He’ll also be coming onto the LadChat podcast when we re-launch later this year.

He can talk about the accident, blindness and running.

But honestly, Tom is articulate, charismatic and funny.

Whatever he chooses to bring to the conversation will be worth a listen.

The internet loves a comeback story.

The danger is that the person at its centre can begin to feel most valuable when they are overcoming something publicly.

Tom, you are doing extraordinary things with what happened to you, and that is massively impressive.

Just know this:

The accident, and the challenges you’ve chosen since, may show the world some of what is already in you.

They didn’t put it there.

London is a serious challenge, and we’ll be firmly behind you and your mum as you take it on.

But it’s a goal you have set for yourself.

It’s not an audition for your place among us.

We invited you to Snowdon and LadChat because you’re mega and we know you’ll fit right in with the legends who are already a part of our group.

The lads will have plenty to offer you.

And you have plenty to offer the lads.

The marathon is impressive, mate.

But so are you.

You already have your family in your corner.

Now you’ve got 7.5K blokes at Lads’ Advice in your corner too.

Welcome 👊💙

Next stop, Snowdon.

Then LadChat.

Then London 2027.

After that, whatever Tom decides comes next.

It’ll probably be mega.

Even if it’s a bit of a rest 😆

Follow Tom & Danni: Unfiltered across Facebook, Instagram and TikTok for the training, the mountain, the marathon and everything beyond it.

If you’ve got this far, it’s clear you find Tom as inspiring as we do, so why not share this post and help his story travel further?

Cheers the boys 💪👊

A year ago today, we lost our mate Ben Rafton .Ben was former Royal Artillery, a member of Lads’ Advice and, most import...
31/08/2026

A year ago today, we lost our mate Ben Rafton .

Ben was former Royal Artillery, a member of Lads’ Advice and, most importantly, a son, a brother, a friend, and one of the most genuinely kind-hearted young men you could ever wish to meet.

His hyperactive energy, cheeky grin, cheesy sense of humour and complete inability to sit still energised any room he walked into.

Just 19 days earlier, we had lost our friend Steve Hughes

Ben had planned to ride his motorbike from Plymouth to North Wales to be there for Steve’s funeral.

He never got the chance.

Ben was killed in a motorbike accident on 31 August 2025.

He was 24.

Today is day 118 of the 365-day running challenge one of our team, Gav Topley , is doing in Steve’s memory, raising money on behalf of our group fundraiser for James’ Place

The target is a minimum of 5km every day.

Today, 5km didn’t feel enough.

So he ran a half marathon for Ben.

Not because 13.1 miles changes anything.

Just because sometimes you need to do something with the fact that somebody mattered. And because Ben loved running and loved a challenge.

A year on, it still doesn’t feel real.

But alongside the pain, there is also gratitude. Gratitude that we got to know Ben, laugh with him, share good times with him, and call him our mate.

And on days like today, doing something in his memory makes him feel just that little bit closer.

We Miss you, Ben. You were one of a kind. You leave a gap the no one else could fill.

Stand easy, mate. Duty done.

See you at the Re-Org 🍻

Over half a million people have now seen our post about what happened when a group of lads at Boomtown noticed that Adam...
28/08/2026

Over half a million people have now seen our post about what happened when a group of lads at Boomtown noticed that Adam was on his own and simply made room for him.

That story belongs to Adam and the lads who welcomed him. Please keep following Adam and supporting his music over on Insta: .

But the response tells us something bigger too.

People understand that belonging matters.

Being noticed matters.

Having somebody say, “You’re with us, mate,” can change the course of a person’s day, and sometimes much more than that.

Lads’ Advice was built around the same principle: men looking out for one another through banter, friendship, advice, practical support and the willingness to have difficult conversations when they are needed.

Men don’t have to join because they have decided they are struggling. Most join because they fancy some banter, want advice about something ordinary or think they might be able to help another lad.

That is the point.

Nobody has to adopt a diagnosis, disclose their deepest feelings or become a different version of themselves to belong and add value. But if life does go sideways, they are already part of a group whose culture they know: one where they can speak without judgement and remain valued and one of the lads.

Our mate and co-founder, Corporal Steve Hughes of The Royal Welsh, put it more simply:

“Just be fu***ng kind.”

We lost Steve to su***de last year, and he is missed every day. We are determined to have a positive impact in his name.

To that end, we are now raising money in his memory for James’ Place UK, which provides free, focused therapy to men in suicidal crisis.

Friendship, ordinary kindness, and an occasional steer from other people’s experiences matter enormously.

Sometimes, men also need specialist help.

James’ Place provides somewhere to receive it from trained therapists who understand how to work with a man when his world feels as though it’s falling down around him and no way forward seems clear.

If Adam’s story reminded you how much it matters to be accepted without having to hide any part of yourself or your situation, please consider helping another man find support without having to hide what he is facing.

You can donate in Steve’s memory - The donation page is linked below our bio and in the comments below.

There is no minimum. Every donation is appreciated, and every penny will help James’ Place continue supporting men in suicidal crisis.

If donating isn’t possible, sharing this post or following Lads’ Advice here or on Instagram: (or if you’re a lad, joining Lads’ Advice) all helps. It enables stories about decent men, practical support and services that save lives to travel further.

Thank you to everybody who showed Adam and those lads so much love.

Let’s turn some of that love into something lasting.



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LCpl Liam Potts’ Dad Paul has released a statement via the UK Ministry Of Defence He said: “There are lots of wonderful ...
27/08/2026

LCpl Liam Potts’ Dad Paul has released a statement via the UK Ministry Of Defence

He said:

“There are lots of wonderful things being said about our son, which has genuinely touched our hearts. Myself, Mandy, James and Erin would like to thank everyone so much for their kindness and help over this last week”.

“A very special thank you to Liam’s other family, the British Army, and particularly his fellow Coldstreamers. Their support during this very emotional time is ‘Nulli Secundus’.”

“Without question, our brilliant rescue volunteers and professionals have, with dignity and a world class standard, done the whole Northeast proud.“

“A tragedy like this has and will continue to affect everyone. I hope each person involved can get and receive help if needed.”

Rest easy Potts. Gone far too soon.

Our thoughts are with your friends, family and oppos at the Coldstream Guards

Until the Re-Org 🍻

Social media has no shortage of stories about young men at their worst.This deserves to travel just as far.Because hones...
25/08/2026

Social media has no shortage of stories about young men at their worst.

This deserves to travel just as far.

Because honestly, what these lads did, and the response from the wider Boomtown , festival and DJ communities since, is fu***ng brilliant.

Adam has autism and ADHD. He saved for a year to attend his first festival and went to Boomtown alone.

A group of complete strangers met him there, welcomed him into their camp and treated him as one of their own for the next three days.

When he returned home, he cried and told his dad:

“I think I’ve found my people.”

They didn’t run a workshop.

They didn’t pity him or demand that he open up.

They didn’t treat him like a problem that needed fixing.

They simply made room for him.

We sometimes make support sound far more complicated than it needs to be. It doesn’t always begin with somebody asking for help.

Sometimes it begins with an invitation.

A place in the group.

Someone saying, “Come with us, mate.”

Feeling like you belong matters. It changes whether you turn up, whether you join in and whether you believe there is a place for you.

These lads didn’t make Adam earn that place by pretending to be somebody else. They showed him it was already there.

They may never have heard of Lads’ Advice, but they embodied everything we have spent the past six years building in our group:

Make room.

Don’t judge.

Bring people in.

Adam is a drum and bass DJ and you can find him and his music at Adzo .

And if this reaches the lads who welcomed him into their camp, you’re welcome among us any time. You already understand exactly what we’re about.

And Adam, that invitation obviously includes you. There’s a Lads’ Advice hoodie here for you and each of the boys, on us, if you’d like them.

Our mate Steve Hughes helped build Lads’ Advice around one very simple message before we sadly lost him last year:

“Just be fu***ng kind.”

These lads did exactly that.

Absolutely spot on, boys. You nailed it 👏

Give Adzo a follow, show him his people extend a little bit further than Boomtown and help this story travel.



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UPDATE: Over a quarter of a million people have now seen this post.

The response to Adam and these lads has been incredible.

Their story illustrates something we care deeply about at Lads’ Advice: being able to belong without hiding any part of yourself or your situation.

We’ve shared more about that, our mate and co-founder Corporal Steve Hughes, and the fundraiser we are running in his memory for James’ Place UK here:

https://www.facebook.com/share/1FrHLsK5t7/

Just imagine the difference we could make if every viewer donated even £1 to our fundraiser for James’ Place UK💪🫡🙏😍

Please keep supporting Adam and his music over on Instagram at too. This remains his story first.

Hi Lads, I’m Taylor, I’m 16 and I have a briefing at 18:00hrd about joining the British Army and going to  My Dad is one...
25/08/2026

Hi Lads,

I’m Taylor, I’m 16 and I have a briefing at 18:00hrd about joining the British Army and going to

My Dad is one of the mods and he said that you guys would probably have some good advice to help me out with this.

I was in air cadets, which I loved, but have decided to go down the or Royal Signals route as it matches more of my interests. (I also think it’s more fun to dig in, than check in🫡😂)

I would like to know opinions, experiences or advice on either of them please

So if any of you boys have any advice re capbadge/trade, the zoom call I’ve got booked in to attend after the briefing, AFC Harrogate, or army life in general I’d really appreciate it.

I’d like to hear any and all advice because I would like to understand what it can be like, and what to expect from training and army life in general. I’m particularly interested in hearing from people who recently went to Harrogate or who are currently serving as sappers or signallers.

Drop your thoughts in the comments.

Cheers boys👊

Taylor

The Padre

UpdateNorthumbria Police have confirmed that a body has been recovered from the River Tyne near Wylam Bridge during the ...
16/08/2026

Update

Northumbria Police have confirmed that a body has been recovered from the River Tyne near Wylam Bridge during the search for Liam.

Formal identification has not yet taken place, but Liam’s family have been informed and are being supported by specialist officers.

Please do not continue sharing the missing-person appeal.

Our thoughts are with Liam’s family, friends and Coldstream Guards colleagues at this desperately difficult time.

Really awful news.

RIP Potts. Until the final RV.

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A year ago today, we lost Steve Hughes.And honestly, it’s no less a kick in the guts now than it was then.Steve was one ...
12/08/2026

A year ago today, we lost Steve Hughes.

And honestly, it’s no less a kick in the guts now than it was then.

Steve was one of the team. He helped set up Lads’ Advice and build the group into what it is today. He was so convinced of the need for a group like ours that he stayed up all night designing our classic logo. He believed completely in what we do, and didn’t just talk about our ethos, but lived it.

Steve was one of those blokes who would show up for other people with no need for thanks and no need to be seen doing it.

He was both one of the men, and a special kind of man. Emotionally intelligent, a natural leader and a proud Corporal in The Royal Welsh.

He was 25 when we lost him.

A year later, the community he helped build has grown to more than 10,000 men across three platforms. They’re still taking the p**s out of each other, celebrating each other’s wins, offering advice and making sure that no one is defined by something they’re facing or has to fear judgement if they ask for help.. Small things that our members tell us can be life-saving.

Since losing our mate, we’ve been raising money in his memory for James’ Place UK, which provides free, expert 1:1 support for men experiencing suicidal crisis. We’re sitting at almost £3K, with another £1,000 about to be added when we draw our raffle.

But today isn’t about a fundraising total.

It’s about remembering our friend.

The lad behind the logo. The bloke who always gave a s**t. The man who should still be here.

Join us if you can in raising a glass to Steve at 21:00hrs tonight.

In the meantime, check in on a mate, make someone feel seen, or just be a little bit kinder than you needed to be. Steve lived by the words 💙 and in that way we would all benefit from following his example.

If you’d like to support James’ Place in Steve’s memory, our fundraiser is here:

https://www.justgiving.com/page/justbefu***ngkind

We miss you so much mate. This will never not be s**t. But we will continue what we started together.

Until the FRV.

Here’s to absent friends. 🍻

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04/08/2026

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