05/13/2026
One of the hardest things I’ve faced as a farmer and at-home horse owner is the isolation. It can be a very lonely place to be some days.
My husband isn’t interested in the horses - that’s “my thing.” My kids grew up and left home. I had my job to go to and people to chat with there, but about work, not about the farm.
Eventually, my work in crisis support became so stressful that I left with extremely high blood pressure and three tumours that literally disappeared within two years of leaving and begin to work from home.
There are lots of people who frequent the barn, and some have become wonderful friends, but they come here to enjoy the peace and calm - not to hear my worries and stresses. I do have some amazing people I think of as my barn family, and I truly couldn’t exist without them. These people deserve the atmosphere I crave here. I also don't want any negatives at the barn. My concerns are mine to carry for my horses and my business.
The isolation grows even more when you own your own business - especially one that runs every day, including weekends. I can’t take time off when my family is available. I miss most family events, and visits are often short, especially right now with the extra feedings my old guy needs.
I’m sure every self-employed reader is nodding in agreement right now.
You are always working -advertising, bookkeeping, the public-facing work, and then all the behind-the-scenes responsibilities no one sees.
And that is one of the main reasons I brought in the educational component at Rayne’s Ridge. Whether we are at our place, yours, or a combination of both. We never want people to feel like they have to sort through things alone.
Can you do it on your own? Absolutely. I have full faith that you can. But the groups in the Horsemanship Learning side of Rayne's Ridge are amazing, caring people who come together to share knowledge, support one another, and help horses. People come to learn something new, yes Our programs are unique and they can take that knowledge home and have something to chat about for awhile.
These horse owners,handlers, barn moms and dads (grandmas, aunts…), riders of all disciplines and competitiveness… They also get to come together with others who truly understand their focus. No matter who you are, you are not around horses if you don’t … just get it.
You don’t leave our education programs unsupported either. We offer chats online or come to you to help figure it out. The horse is always our focus.
And honestly, one of the best parts for me? I get to talk about the farm and horses with people who are more than horse people but they are Kindred Spirits.