11/04/2024
I love this diagram of our four authentic emotions from Jenny Nurick
I’m reframing her post to summarise her article. There’s a link below.
When under stress, it can be tricky to tune into how you are feeling. Explaining these four authentic emotions simplifies the who le process for children providing a much simpler way of thinking.
When you are in an argument, ask yourself which is your default emotion? This might be the emotion that was more acceptable in your childhood.
Men can find themselves expressing anger when under the anger is a deep well of unexpressed loss and grief. Women sometimes report feeling angry in the moment, only to realise later that they are actually scared. Perhaps scared they are not believed or scared they are getting their parenting wrong. It can work in other ways. These are just examples of ‘ masks’ we wear on a daily basis. Our facial expressions may change 2000 times a day going into and out of distress.
Reflect or think on whether you wear a mask to cover your authentic emotion. It’s called a cover up emotion .
Just naming the authentic emotion you are feeling and noticing the emotion you are showing the world starts the process of taking off your mask and asking for what you need. To be heard, comforted, reassured. Saying ‘ I am scared’ or ‘ I am angry’ or ‘ I am sad’ instead of showing a cover up is very powerful.
Our work with the pony herd explores personalities and authentic emotions with children in a fun way.
We also explore character strengths, environmental preferences and preferred communication channels.
Farm and Pony Skool is situated in the Bourne Valley on our Strawberry Farm.
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https://jennynurick.com/four-basic-emotions-mad-sad-glad-and-scared/
