Light Spirit Coaching

05/07/2026

Oh my! I wish I didn’t relate quite so much!

05/06/2026

It's coming! A small group for women with ADHD who have a mean inner critic but also have a playful side!

We are gonna lean on your playful side to help soften your critic (and also poke holes in how inaccurate it is!)

Curious? https://lightspiritcoaching.com/contact/

04/30/2026

CARING FOR YOURSELF & ASKING FOR SUPPORT ❤️

I learned some things while I was sick for over a week. 🥴
I could only go from bed to chair to upright for a few moments (to grab whatever was quick to eat or drink) before I had to sit back down again. The virus and the fatigue were clearly in charge. My job was to figure out how to subdue the symptoms and cancel appointments left and right.

As someone with ADHD who is used to being active and doing things, the experience was humbling, boring, frustrating, exhausting, AND also a learning experience… I didn't want to be sick (of course), so part of me was trying NOT to be sick...

But after the first few days of not feeling any better, I finally conceded and began to accept that this would take as long as it would take. This may sound obvious, but it did not FEEL obvious AT ALL!

Acceptance allows you to relax a little. It made feeling being sick a little easier. I stopped trying NOT to be sick when I WAS clearly sick!

Practical Things I Learned:
* Tips about what might help from friends who had been through this virus already (meds that did or didn't help, course of virus, etc.)
* A supplement I didn't know about
* A sleeping position to cough less (that couldn't work until I tried it...)

Other Things I Learned More Deeply:
* If I leave my ringer off, I can have the quiet and solitude I need.
* If I am lonely or need some food or meds I'm too weak to get myself, I need to ASK someone. People generally WANT to help.

Even if I am afraid I might be "bothering someone,"
➡️ MY JOB is to ASK for what I need.
➡️ THEIR JOB is to tell me what they can or can't do.
➡️ It is NOT my job to figure that out for them before I even call or text them. That's exhausting and is a very old belief I learned as a child (that has stuck tenaciously!)

* The “silver lining” was that I discovered I needed a longer break from my daily routine. The long hours of sleep and not being able to focus on anything gave my body and brain the rest it had been craving!

It was very uncomfortable at first, but WOW! In the last few days of recovering, my brain rewarded me with all kinds of juicy ideas, especially ideas that are helping me integrate what I learned about myself and my life while I was sick!

Call it what you will — downtime, spaciousness, ease, doing “nothing” — our brains need that time to refresh and reset. Sometimes that may come in the form of being sick.

Do you best to make peace with being sick, while you GIVE YOURSELF — and ASK FOR — the TLC you need. ❤️

04/29/2026

Question for my ADHD friends:

Is meditation part of your days?
Why or why not?
(I’d love to hear your experience in the comments.) ☺️

It is so easy to lose ourselves in the middle of Life, especially with ADHD.
Meditation is one of the ways I come back to myself. 💖


BENEFITS of MEDITATION for ADHD:

* Increased focus and attention

* Better impulse control

* Decreased anxiety and stress

* Improved brain function
(Regular meditation can actually thicken the prefrontal cortex!)

* Better emotional regulation
(This is the benefit I’ve noticed has made the most difference for me!)

Are you curious or want to give meditation a second chance?
Throw out whatever rules you think meditation has!

TRY THESE TIPS FOR MEDITATING WITH ADHD:

* Find a form (and length) of meditation that WORKS FOR YOU.
* The general wisdom is to start small, (2-5 minutes), then increase from there, IF you are curious or interested in doing that. ☺️ 🤔
* Remember to throw out rules that are not supportive!
* Please don't try to force yourself into something that doesn't work for you. It is meant to be a gentle practice, not something to force.
* You skipped a day, or a week, or longer?
No matter! Start again as if you just meditated yesterday.
No need to berate yourself. That goes against what meditation is for!

There are so many different kinds of meditations!

* MOVING MEDITATIONS like walking or Tai Chi or yoga.
* Silent meditations
* Guided meditations
* 30-second meditations
* 5 or 10-minute meditations
* Day-long meditations 😳
(Some people swear by the benefits of multi-day meditations, but I don’t plan on choosing those in the foreseeable future!)

Many people meditate for 20-30 minutes.
I am currently a mostly daily meditator for 5-10 minutes. I feel more grounded, present, resilient, and less reactive. 🥰

Use the creativity you have as someone with ADHD to modify a particular meditation so that it "fits" YOU better. Shorten a meditation as needed.
Or design your OWN meditation!

Are you telling yourself that meditation is important, but it feels boring?
Or makes you feel anxious?

USE ADHD MOTIVATION for meditation:

* INTERESTING?
(Which ones intrigue you? Different teacher? Different kind?)

* NOVEL?
(Switch it up periodically.)

* "RIGHT-SIZED" CHALLENGE?
(Let yourself begin with 2-5 minute sessions.
Or find a guided meditation you like, instead of a silent one.)


I’m not a meditation teacher, but I have learned a lot about meditation over the decades, especially what has thwarted me and what supports me.

Give it a try if you haven’t meditated.
Or try it again if it’s been a while.

Let it be fun!
Use your natural curiosity to find what works FOR YOU.

If you have any questions, please contact me for support!

04/28/2026

Meditation is incredibly beneficial for those of us with ADHD. Throw out the meditation rules and make it something that works FOR YOU!

04/28/2026

Make your OWN meditation “rules,” my ADHD friends!

04/24/2026

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04/22/2026

Self-compassion matters — a LOT — especially when you have ADHD! Try ONE of these simple practices and see what kind of difference it can make for you!

04/21/2026

When you have ADHD, asking for support can feel dangerous!
“Dangerous” some of you may ask? But those I’m speaking to understand.

You learned very well that it seems better to struggle alone, instead of risking being judged and criticized — again.

But the problem is deeper than asking for support.
Here’s what underneath:

1) Your protective shame.
When you’re doing the best you can, and and you’re already struggling, THEN someone criticizes or judges you — that HURTS — a LOT! Over time, it becomes more difficult to ask for support. Asking requires exposing your pain and difficulties. You understandably want to protect yourself.

2) Not recognizing (or believing) that your brain is DIFFERENT, not flawed! There is NOTHING about you that is wrong! Your thinking and ways of doing things is validly different, not wrong.

3) Neurotypical culture and expectations. You’re coping in a culture that expects (or even requires) you to think and do things in a way that does not work for the way you think and do things. You need support, not criticism!

4) Not having experienced how much a difference it makes to have people support you WITH your ADHD.

This is why I do what I do.
This is why I decided to become an ADHD coach.
I don’t want you to struggle any longer.

I found people who KNOW ADHD and support me, and I continually learn about ADHD.

I transformed my own experience with ADHD and 8 years of professional experience as a therapist, into a kind of intuitive magic and practical strategies to support you.

I walk WITH YOU to help you understand ADHD from the inside out. You receive compassion, support, and strategies — not criticism or judgment.

Despite how dangerous it can feel to reach out for support as someone with ADHD, the risk is worth it when you have someone in your corner, someone who “gets it.”

Ready for intuitive magic and practical strategies for your ADHD?

I offer a complimentary 30-minute session so you can find out what it’s like to feel compassion and understanding, and receive a practical strategy to take with you.

https://lightspiritcoaching.com/contact/

04/21/2026

When you have ADHD, asking for support can feel dangerous!
“Dangerous” some of you may ask? But those I’m speaking to understand.

You learned very well that it seems better to struggle alone, instead of risking being judged and criticized — again.

But the problem is deeper than asking for support.
Here’s what underneath:

1) Your protective shame.
When you’re doing the best you can, and and you’re already struggling, THEN someone criticizes or judges you — that HURTS — a LOT! Over time, it becomes more difficult to ask for support. Asking requires exposing your pain and difficulties. You understandably want to protect yourself.

2) Not recognizing (or believing) that your brain is DIFFERENT, not flawed! There is NOTHING about you that is wrong! Your thinking and ways of doing things is validly different, not wrong.

3) Neurotypical culture and expectations. You’re coping in a culture that expects (or even requires) you to think and do things in a way that does not work for the way you think and do things. You need support, not criticism!

4) Not having experienced how much a difference it makes to have people support you WITH your ADHD.

This is why I do what I do.
This is why I decided to become an ADHD coach.

I don’t want you to struggle any longer.


I finally found people who KNOW ADHD and support me, and I continually learn about ADHD.

I transformed my own experience with ADHD and 8 years of professional experience as a therapist, into a kind of intuitive magic and practical strategies to support you.

I walk WITH YOU to help you understand ADHD from the inside out. You receive compassion, support, and strategies — not criticism or judgment.

Despite how dangerous it can feel to reach out for support as someone with ADHD, the risk is worth it when you have someone in your corner, someone who “gets it.”


Ready for intuitive magic and practical strategies for your ADHD?

I offer a complimentary 30-minute session so you can find out what it’s like to feel compassion and understanding, and receive a practical strategy to take with you.

https://lightspiritcoaching.com/contact/

04/10/2026

ADHD affects you wherever you are, and wherever you go!

I had a fun conversation with Jo about ADHD challenges for those in academia and shed some light on what can help, especially for differences in motivation for those of us with ADHD.

My friend, Jo VanEvery, offers encouragement and support for academic writing.

If you want to learn about the significant differences in motivation for ADHD, see the link in the comments to connect with me!

Planning is hard. It's especially hard when you have ADHD. In this episode, I talk to Christine Weddle, an ADHD coach, about how we think about planning, and what kinds of things work for folks with ADHD. Because we all have things we want to get done.