06/02/2026
Disappointment isn't the enemy.
Sometimes disappointment is simply evidence that something mattered.
That you cared. That you tried. That you invested your time, energy, heart, money, hopes and dreams into something.
And when it doesn't go the way you hoped, of course it hurts.
I remember coming out of a qualifier recently feeling really disappointed.
Not angry. Not bitter.
Just disappointed.
And I had to sit with it and ask myself why.
Was it because I'd failed?
No.
Was it because someone else didn't deserve it?
Absolutely not.
It was because I cared.
Because I'd worked hard. Because I was passionate. Because I wanted it.
And underneath that disappointment were all sorts of familiar visitors:
💭 "Maybe I'm not good enough." 💭 "Maybe I should be doing more." 💭 "Maybe if I'd tried harder..."
Old stories have a habit of sneaking into present-day disappointments.
That's why I think it's so important not to bypass the feeling with forced positivity.
"Everything happens for a reason." "Just be grateful." "At least..."
Sometimes those things are true.
But first?
Feel it.
Acknowledge it.
Give it some space.
Because what we resist tends to stick around.
What we allow ourselves to feel tends to move through us.
Then, once the dust settles, get curious.
✨ What am I actually disappointed about? ✨ What part of me is hurting? ✨ Have I felt this before? ✨ What can I learn from this? ✨ What do I want to do differently next time?
I love the Rule of Three for this:
🌱 Three things to improve. 🌱 Three things that went well.
Because growth and gratitude can sit alongside disappointment.
You don't have to choose one or the other.
The truth is, some emotions get labelled as "negative" when really they're just uncomfortable.
Disappointment. Sadness. Frustration. Jealousy. Anger.
They all carry information.
They all have something to teach us.
And sometimes disappointment is simply proof that you're brave enough to care deeply about something.
That sounds pretty human to me. ❤️🐴✨ and how I care about my students and their success.
credit: Equimotional Performance Coaching
pc: Queen and I Harmony Hill Farm’s beautiful warm indoor this past winter.