10/15/2026
**trigger warning** talk of infant loss
Today is October 15, Pregnancy and Infancy Loss Awareness Day, and unfortunately, a day that affects many of you.
For those that don’t know, Oak Haven Flower Farm was started because of my own loss. While lost in grief from my second loss, I had to pour myself into something redemptive and beautiful.
Many hours were spent out in the flower field, with my own tears watering the ground. I dug into the ground, planting hundreds of seeds and cutting hundreds of flowers while miscarrying. It was raw and primal but so healing. Prayers flowed from my mouth. Questions to God were spoke, and sometimes yelled, out loud. I still don’t have answers, but I relish the blessing of my children on earth and the ones I carried with me on earth for only a short time and now reside in heaven.
I have always wanted to do something special for those mourning on this day. However, we are usually hit with frost before this date and I haven’t been able to bless women and honor the little ones that they lost.
But today, I can finally do something. If you have lost a child, no matter how far along you were in your pregnancy, no matter their age, no matter if it was decades or days ago, no matter if you held them or not, no matter if you cared for them for weeks or years, no matter how they passed, I want to recognize you and your precious one(s) by offering you a You Pick today, free of charge. I also want to invite the waiting women — those battling infertility and the struggles associated with that heartache — and adoptive moms who have faced failed or incomplete adoption and loss.
If you don’t have time for a You Pick, please grab one of the pre-cut individual flowers in our roadside stand in honor of your little one. Cups, snips, and water currently occupy the stand, ready to be used by you.
While it might feel trite and minimal to offer only flowers for such a deep loss, believe me, this comes from my heart. I have dreamt of this day for five years. Please know I am praying for each of you that remember your babies on this day and probably everyday of your life.
I am so sorry for those that come and get flowers today. I truly am. I wish you wouldn’t have any reason to be here today. But this is why I created this farm: to bring beauty to others, in the midst of the joys and pains of this life.
May you feel the love of me, your sisters who ache with you, and God our Father, who comforts you in your need. You are loved and seen, and your little one is not forgotten.
With a lot of love,
Genevieve
PS: feel free to share this post with anyone who might need this extra touch of love today🤗
