06/03/2023
One thing I had to do when I was training horses was make a decision on whether or not my thoughts should be what mattered to the horse. I noticed that I would plan out what I wanted to do next in my head, and once I got to a certain level with my horses, they would often start doing what I was thinking about.
In the beginning I was like hey, knock that off, I didn't ask you for that. But then I started thinking about all the times I do ask them for things in my brain first and then with my body language and whatever else they can sense. And not just when I was riding or working the horse - when I could sense a student getting scared, I could silently signal to the horse to slow down or come to me. And sometimes even kind of the opposite, I would signal to the horse to ignore what he was feeling from the rider and focus on me because I knew the rider could push through whatever was happening. And it worked in reverse too, the horses would signal to me and draw my attention to something.
So once I realized what was happening, I just made a decision that I was going to visualize everything I wanted first and that would be my first cue. Then I would get on that ladder of ramping up the cues until I got what I wanted. I could have made the opposite decision - I could have decided that I'm going to think about all kinds of random things that we might do next but I don't want them to actually do anything until I give the next level cue, body language or voice or whatever I decided it should be. The important point is to just make a decision and stick with it.
I would see a lot of times during lessons, horses responding to the scenario in a way that I thought was appropriate but their riders weren't expecting. For example the rider might be saying to me that they thought the canter was too big and they were getting scared, and their horse would drop to a trot, and then the horse would get punished. But that needs to be thought about in a different way. If you get to where your horse can read your mind, that's amazing, and it helps you control your thoughts and emotions, since at that point, each thought matters.