Coach Me Sommer

17/08/2026

The day I took this picture I told my son, “look how long my hair is getting!”
He said “nope”.
👎I think it’s growing.
Still not sure how long I’ll grow it this time.
When I see hair flying in my friends’ eyes I don’t miss it.

14/08/2026

I played in my first pickleball tournament yesterday!!!!

It was fun, hot and pretty intense. We played 7 games with only a few minutes between each game.
All the women were friendly and fun to play against.
I also got this cute pickleball blanket.

Great playing Joyce and thank you again for a fantastic time!

13/08/2026

I didn’t always love myself—or even like myself.

I went through years of beating myself up. Of people pleasing (not even knowing that I was) to help other people feel more comfortable. Of losing myself by not making decisions and often not showing my true self.

I started loving myself long before I shaved my head.

It began when I started being honest with myself about what I wanted, what I needed, and who I was—and started giving those things up less and less for other people.

I learned that compromising doesn’t mean abandoning myself. I can care about someone else’s wants and needs and my own simultaneously.

Coaching helped me with that. It helped me slow down and really listen to myself. To recognize what I wanted, what I needed, and what was true for me.

And little by little, I started trusting myself.

Then, about 5 months ago, I shaved my head.

This video was taken 3 days later.

I remember feeling exposed.

And I also remember thinking…
I don’t need my hair to
-love myself
-to hide behind
And
I don’t need to change who I am to make other people comfortable.

I had already learned that I could love myself without changing who I was for other people.

And now I was learning that I could love myself without changing how I looked.

I have more hair today. 😂

But I still feel the same about who I am.

And I think that’s pretty cool.

Maybe loving yourself isn’t about finally becoming someone you’re always proud of.

Maybe it’s about finally being willing to be honest about who you already are and not abandoning yourself when you see her.

11/08/2026

Great morning. I don’t do this enough.

11/08/2026

It’s not often I’m up and ready to go to the beach for the sunrise. Incredible!

04/08/2026

This morning I woke up with intense digestive pain, nausea, and sweating. All not very common for me.

Since I wasn’t with the kids today, I went back to bed and was able to do some self comforting. It felt calming, healing. I felt loved.

I thought about my son, who already moved out, and my daughter, who will be leaving for college this year.

I remembered that when I was young and living away from home, some of the loneliest moments weren’t holidays or birthdays, they were the days I was sick.

When you are sick, I invite you to try this out. Imagine your mom, dad, grandparent, or someone who has made you feel safe and loved sitting beside you.
If that doesn’t feel right, you can imagine yourself comforting your younger self, your own child,
or
you can even practice being held by the source of love and comfort.

❤️Sommer




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12/07/2026

A fiery streak on Duolingo!!

04/07/2026

03/07/2026

Visiting Seattle and loving it. Lots of friends and a little detour.

14/06/2026

Before. After. After. ☀️

First haircut since shaving my head for St. Baldrick’s.

Nothing dramatic—just a little cleanup on the back and sides so I can keep growing it out. Maybe 🤔😁