08/23/2026
When your son steps up to change your oil and fix his sisters car, because some boys never become men. Robert Carroll .
Thanks Maverick for stepping up and being the man of the house. 🥰 Mom's can teach boy's how to be men too.
Thank you God for giving me the "how hard can it be gene", for being the Tom boy who's Dad showed her how to take care of her vehicles, how to fish, how to shoot a gun, how to hunt, and that girls could do it too. Obviously, God knew that one day I'd need all this for my son. I pray he learns from his parents mistakes, and will be a solid Godly man for his family one day. 🙏
I struggled with this today, hard. I melted down, cried, got angry, tried to get the person who should've been doing it to help......then I stopped. Took a deep breath and remembered who I was and what God gave me. "Be still", right?! Fighting for what's not supposed to be is holding me back from what God has in store for me.
I've honestly been a single mom for at least a decade, probably longer. But we had family and long time friends around, were still at "home" in the Black Hills, and we were still "together". Now, we are REALLY doing this on our "own", but thankfully with some amazing friends, community, and coworkers. Because really, you are never alone.
Three months ago my kids father left us, without even trying to mend his family or kids, in the middle of Iowa with no family, a few amazing friends (thank God), a huge mess (in so many ways), and his family fully supporting his behavior. He even managed to drag my sibling into it, because ya know, the more chaos the better. Narcissistic gaslighting is real and ugly, and it turns out their families are obviously some are part of why these people are this way and have no idea who he is without the mask. He made sure it was done in the worst way, with no regard as to how it affected his kids. Spent the following 2 months or more completely ignoring his children and making my life a living hell. I am still learning to not respond after almost 20 years of codependency and living with narcissistic behaviors that I didnt know existed until after we moved. But we are here, and its time to "be still" and listen.....
You've got this momma, show your kids what rising above it all looks like, not fighting for less.
I'm sharing because people need to know what this looks like, that its real, and being quiet about it doesnt help anyone. Suffering doesn't need to happen alone.
