New Creation Life Coaching LLC

07/18/2026

😡ANGER!!!
Here is a condensed version of a recent bible study I wrote:

📖THE FULFILLMENT OF THE LAW
Matt. 5:17–20
Jesus wasn’t rejecting the Law; He was rejecting the hypocritical legalism of the Pharisees. They kept the Law externally while breaking it inwardly. He exposes their false righteousness-by-works mentality and reveals a true righteousness that comes only through faith in Him. Matthew then gives six examples of their performative righteousness: murder, adultery, divorce, oaths, retaliation, and loving enemies. Here is a dive into the 1st example:

🗡MURDER
Matt. 5:21–26
Jesus contrasts external obedience with heart motives. Unjust anger toward your adelphos (brother/sister in Christ) is spiritually equivalent to murder because murder begins in the heart (Matt. 15:19).

Main Point: God judges the heart, not outward appearance (Luke 16:15; 1 Sam. 16:7). Anger stems from the heart. What you choose to do with it matters because God will ultimately judge our lives.

WHAT IS ANGER?
Anger is a strong feeling of irritation or displeasure. It creates energy in the body (nervous system) and we choose whether that energy becomes constructive or destructive.

HEALTHY / RIGHTEOUS ANGER:
Righteous anger responds to sin and injustice with godly love and a desire for restoration.

Healthy anger depends on the Holy Spirit and uses that energy to confront evil and pursue what honors God. (Eph. 4:26; James 1:19–20; Rom. 12:19)

WHEN ANGER BECOMES SIN:
Anger becomes sinful when it stems from pride, grows into bitterness or malice, or seeks personal vengeance.

When anger takes control, it distorts perspective, dulls love, clouds judgment, and opens the door to emotional, verbal, or physical harm.

The Matthew Henry commentary notes anger becomes sinful when it is:
• Without cause (trivial matters)
• Without good purpose (to assert authority, vent resentment, or stir revenge)
• Without restraint and harmful

Supporting Scriptures:
Matt. 12:34–35; 1 Cor. 13:5; Gal. 5:19–21; Matt. 15:19; Eph. 4:26–27, 31; Col. 3:8; Prov. 14:29; Prov. 29:11

JUDGMENT v. 22
The Sanhedrin was the supreme Jewish council; the highest legal, religious, and political authority in Israel. Though they were unable to carry out the death penalty under Roman rule, they judged major civil and criminal cases and held significant influence over Rome’s governors, functioning as the court of last resort for the Jewish people.

This is the same groups that used their authority to falsely accuse and condemn Christ. Their anger, jealousy, and fear escalated into violence.

Jesus warns that unresolved anger follows the same pattern and moves toward judgment.

God’s Judgment:
• Unbelievers: Great White Throne - anyone not found in the Book of Life will be thrown in the lake of fire (Hell) (Rev. 20:11–15)
• Believers: Bema Seat - judgment of works and motives but salvation is not lost (2 Cor. 5:9-11)

RECONCILIATION v. 23–24
Unresolved anger exposes us to consequences, spiritual stagnation, broken fellowship with Christ, and destructive fruit.

Scriptures:
Heb. 12:14–15; Eph. 4:29–32; James 1:19–20; Ps. 37:8; 1 Cor. 3:3; Isa. 59:1–2; Ps. 66:18; 1 John 1:6–7; Matt. 5:23–24

STEPS TOWARD RECONCILIATION
We need to be reconciled to God, to others and ourselves.

1. Examine Yourself. (Lam. 3:40; 2 Cor. 13:5)
What is the Lord revealing as I examine my thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors?

2. Acknowledge the Anger. (Ps. 32:5; Prov. 28:13)
What leaves you vulnerable to anger?

3. Identify the True Source.
Anger is often a secondary emotion rooted in hurt, frustration, or fear. (Prov. 15:1; Prov. 19:11)
What deeper hurt, fear, or frustration is my anger pointing to?

4. Choose How to Use Anger’s Energy.
Healthy anger speaks truth in love, seeks reconciliation, and depends on the Spirit for guidance.

THE ADVERSARY - v. 25
“Adversary” = antidikos — legal opponent; specifically Satan. Jesus uses the familiar Jewish court system (local court → Sanhedrin → judge → officer → prison) to illustrate divine judgment.

- Every person is walking toward God’s courtroom.
- Settle Your Case While You’re “On the way". Don't let anger impact your eternity!
- Choose whom you will serve (Josh. 24:15).
- Without Christ, you belong to Satan (John 8:44; 1 John 5:19).
- At death, you meet God, the Judge; either at the Bema Seat (believer) or the Great White Throne (unbeliever).

If you have not settled matters when you had the chance/on the way (accepted Christ as Lord and Savior), you face the final prison (hell).

What Is Your Plea?
Has anger affected your walk to court?

- Innocent – saved by Christ; life reflects unity, love, and good fruit.
OR
- Guilty – condemned; life reflects ungodly, rotten fruit.

Reflection Questions:
If I met The Judge today, would He find me innocent and free or guilty and condemned?

Where do I see unresolved anger shaping my witness, worship, or readiness to stand before the Judge?

If you’re uncertain about what will happen on the day you stand before God, the Judge, I would be honored to talk with you and help you understand what Scripture says. But if you prefer to consider this privately, you can respond to Him right now. You can tell your adversary that you no longer want to be found guilty, and you can ask God for the freedom Christ offers. Call out to Him, acknowledge your need for His salvation, and ask Him to make you innocent through faith in His Son, Jesus Christ.

Blessings,
- Carolyn Vargas M.A., PMHC

06/17/2026

💁🏼‍♀️🌷 LADIES!!
Who's ready for bible study Saturday morning at 9:30am on Google Meets?!!

I am currently sitting outside typing up this week's lesson on Matthew 5:10-12 finishing up our study on the beatitudes and ITS GONNA BE GREAT!

The topic?... Being blessed and rejoicing through suffering and persecution!

Idk about you, but being joyous during persecution is not always my go-to emotion or feeling. And Ive certainly been in difficult seasons where I felt anything but blessed.

This whole study on the beatitudes has been an amazing challenge to look within us but also to look above us - at the One who spoke these words in Matthew, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

📧 If you would like to join us, please text me your email, so I can send you the link.
📲860-940-0590

05/31/2026

Day 2 at the SWVAL - Southwest Virginia Alternative Living Expo is officially underway!

One of my absolute favorite parts of these events is getting to hear the unique stories of the guests and attendees walking through the doors, and connecting with fellow vendors who share a passion for true wellness.

Sharing my own passion and purpose with so many wonderful guests has been a joy. For the last five and a half years, providing dedicated Christian Mental Health & Life Coaching has been my true calling. I am deeply grateful for every person I’ve been privileged to walk alongside, and I'm so excited for the connections still to come.

If you are looking for mental health support, I love offering a space that does things a little differently. Because I don't operate through the traditional red tape of insurance, you don't have to worry about clinical diagnostic labels. Instead, our conversations focus entirely on *you*—offering deeply personalized, heart-centered guidance tailored to your unique journey and faith.

I can’t wait to meet and chat with more of you today! Come by my booth, say hello, and enter to win an amazing self-care raffle package. It features a cozy blanket, a glass jar, organic chamomile tea, a journal, **and two free sessions**!

Can't make it out today? I’d still love to connect with you. Head over to my website to explore how we can work together. 😊
👉 www.carolynvargasclc.com

05/30/2026

No plans this weekend? Come see me at the Berglund Center
For the SWVAL - Southwest Virginia Alternative Living Expo
Ill be here all weekend talking to folks about Christian mental health coaching.

🚫 NO labels!
🚫 NO insurance dictating your health!

🌱 Just solution-focused, strength-based, personalized care for your mental health and well-being, while respecting your faith and helping you walk as the New Creation you are!

Www.carolynvargasclc.com
860-940-0590

05/20/2026

Big welcome to our newest Two Twelve Roanoke member, Carolyn Vargas with New Creation Life Coaching LLC!

Carolyn specializes in helping people navigate life transitions, anxiety, depression, parenting, motivation, and relationship growth. We’re excited to have another caring professional in the room who’s focused on helping people move forward and grow.

Two Twelve is more than just passing business cards around. It’s about building real relationships, supporting each other, and surrounding yourself with people who genuinely want to see you win.

If you’ve been looking for a networking group with strong local professionals and a great atmosphere, come visit us sometime.

📍 The Maridor
1857 Grandin Rd SW, Roanoke, VA 24015
🕘 Every Tuesday | 9:00 AM – 10:00 AM

Welcome to the family Carolyn! We’re glad to have you.

05/15/2026

Ready to redefine the way you live? ✨

In 2 WEEKS come see me and other amazing vendors at the SWVAL - Southwest Virginia Alternative Living Expo which will be two powerhouse days of learning, connection, and hands-on exploration!

Whether you're looking to slash your bills or fully escape the grid, you'll meet top experts, DIYers, and sustainable innovators to show you how.
✨️Here’s a taste of what’s waiting for you:

🌞Off-Grid Systems & Eco-Building:
Master self-reliance and alternative design.

💰Smart Savings & Small Spaces:
Real, actionable cost-cutting strategies.

🌱True Holistic Wellness & Mental Health:
I’ll be there showing you how to cultivate mental resilience through the integration of faith and evidence based tools - without insurance companies or corporate red tape dictating your care—just tailor-made, deeply integrated wellness designed uniquely for *you* and your lifestyle.

From curious beginners to seasoned homesteaders and all natural and holistic gurus, there is something here for *everyone*.

Come find your community, ground your mind, and build your future! 🛠️🌱

May 30-31
Berglund Center Roanoke VA

🎟 Here: https://berglundcenter.live/events/southwest-virginia-alternative-living-swval-expo-2026?occurrenceID=3214

05/02/2026

🌿Breaking the Stigma: Faith & Mental Health in Harmony✨️

For a long time, there has been a heavy silence in the Church regarding mental health. Many have felt that a struggle with anxiety or depression was a sign of "spiritual failure."
But here is the truth:
You can love Jesus and still have a racing heart.
The Good News:
The tide is finally turning. Recent studies show that 68% of Americans would feel welcome in a church even if they had a mental illness. Yet, the gap is still real:

The Struggle:
Over 7 million Christians in the U.S. struggle with clinical depression.

The Gap:
Nearly 1 in 4 adults look to the Church first for help, but many feel their church isn't equipped to help.

The Science of Hope:
Science is finally catching up to Scripture. Research shows that people with active spiritual lives are 22% less likely to experience depressive symptoms.
Faith isn't just a comfort; it is a proven catalyst for recovery.

In our sessions, we use Scripture and biblical disciplines as the foundation for real change, doing our part to lower those numbers and bring hope back to the Church, one transformed life at a time.

A hallmark of my coaching model is the shift toward Identity over Diagnosis.
While clinical diagnoses have their place, they can often become "man-made" identities that feel heavy and limiting.

My approach is strengths-based and solution-focused.
Instead of looking only at the struggle and flaws, we look at the unique gifts, talents and abilities God has already placed within you.
We don't get stuck in the problem; we focus on the solution found in Christ and what He's given you as His unique and deeply loved child.
By leaning into your identity as a *New Creation*, we move forward with practical tools that honor your faith and your future.

This May, let’s choose to break the silence. You don’t have to choose between your faith and your mental well-being.

🤍 Ready for a realistic, affordable, and Christ-centered path forward?

Visit WWW.CAROLYNVARGASCLC.COM or call 860-940-0590 to start your journey today!

Peace & Blessings,
Carolyn Vargas M.A.,CLC, PMHC

04/30/2026

Are you mourning?

I was reading Acts 8 this morning and verse 2 stood out to me: “Godly men buried Stephen and mourned deeply for him” (NIV).

Lately, I have picked up on the theme of grief and mourning—both personally and professionally. Grief and mourning are probably some of the hardest things we have to face in life.

Thankfully, as believers in Christ, we do not grieve like the rest of mankind who have no hope. (1 Thess. 4:13–14). This passage goes on to say, in verse 18, that we are to “encourage one another with these words.”
We have a hope for heaven through Christ Jesus.
And Jesus is coming for His bride (the church) soon.

We can mourn and grieve, but we do so with a hope we can take comfort in.

Here are some more verses on mourning that speak to both our hearts and our mental and emotional well‑being:

Romans 12:15 — Supportive, empathetic friends
Grief is eased when others sit with us in it; shared sorrow reduces emotional isolation.

Revelation 21:4 — The hope of Heaven
Holding onto future restoration helps anchor us when pain feels overwhelming.

Matthew 5:4 — God comforts the mourning
Comfort is both spiritual and emotional—God meets us where our hearts are tender.

Psalm 30:11–12 — Praise through sadness
Worship can help regulate emotions by grounding us in God’s unchanging character.

Psalm 34:18 — God’s nearness to the brokenhearted
Feeling seen and held by God supports emotional stability in seasons of loss.

Genesis 50:11 — Holding a ceremony
Ceremonies and memorials help the mind process grief and honor what was lost.

Daniel 10:2 & Deut. 34:8 — Taking the time you need
Grief has no deadline; giving yourself time supports healthier emotional recovery.

Jeremiah 31:13 & Ecclesiastes 7:2 — Mourning is not forever
Emotional pain softens over time; joy and laughter slowly return as the heart heals.

Jeremiah 8:18 & 21 — Confessing your feelings to the Lord
Naming emotions reduces internal pressure and intimately invites God into the healing process.

Job 1:20–22 — Mourn and worship together
Honest grief expressed before God builds emotional self‑control and spiritual resilience.

Psalm 6:6 & 9 — Crying it out
Tears release emotional tension, and remembering God hears you brings comfort.

2 Corinthians 5:8–10 — Eternity and accountability
Grief reminds us of our true home and encourages intentional, purposeful living.

Ecclesiastes 7:2 — Life’s fragility
Loss prompts honest reflection about how we’re living and where we’re headed eternally.

Grief is sacred ground, where love, loss, faith, and real emotion all show up at once. As we walk through it, Scripture brings us back to hope, to community, and to the presence of God. My prayer is that we give ourselves and each other grace in the process, letting the Lord shape our hearts as we process whatever type of grief we are facing, seeking to heal from it with God’s help, and to hold onto the hope we have in His Son, Jesus Christ and Heaven that awaits us one day.

If you need help through your grief process, I would be honored to come along side you, to be that support for you in your time of healing. Call or text me at 860-940-0590.

Peace and Blessings,
Carolyn Vargas M.A., CLC, PMHC

04/26/2026

🎉🎉Congrats to my raffle winner (M.R.) at the 6th Annual Roanoke Valley Holistic Expo

📱I will be in touch via phone call and email!

Roanoke Area- I'll see you again May 30-31st for the SWVAL - Southwest Virginia Alternative Living Expo

04/21/2026

🤯Emotional Control and the People You Associate With:

📖 In Acts 5:17–42, we see the high priest and the Sadducees persecuting Peter and John after the apostles performed miracles, preached Christ resurrected, and continued adding to the number of believers. These religious leaders were filled with jealousy, fear, confusion, guilt, shame, and deep anger.

They envied the apostles’ ability to perform miracles, but their inability had nothing to do with human effort. The apostles walked in obedience to God, filled with the Holy Spirit, living out their God‑given mission. The religious leaders, however, were merely religious—devoted to man‑made rules and outward appearance while spiritually empty because they did not know Christ or possess the Holy Spirit. That is why they could not do what the apostles did.

They were also jealous of the apostles’ growing influence. These leaders prided themselves on image, authority, and control. The apostles threatened that system. Their message exposed the leaders’ religious structure as obsolete, invalid, and powerless. The apostles were leading people away from hollow tradition and into the Way, the Truth, and the Life—Jesus Christ, the resurrected Messiah—into relationship, new life, and freedom.

The leaders tried everything to stop them, even imprisoning them under guard. But verses 19–20 tell us that an angel of the Lord opened the doors and commanded them to return to the temple and preach “the full message of this new life.” Nothing could stop them because they were obedient, Spirit‑filled, and on mission for God.
This only intensified the leaders’ confusion, fear, and anger. When confronted, Peter boldly reminded them of two truths:
1) They must obey God rather than man
2) The leaders had killed Jesus, but God raised Him from the dead—and the apostles would not stop testifying to what they witnessed.

The leaders were now enraged and wanted the apostles dead. They were fully in fight‑or‑flight mode—thinking brain offline, acting purely from emotion and instinct (v. 33).

😮‍💨 Then enters co‑regulation—through Gamaliel.

Co‑regulation is when a calm, grounded person uses their steady presence to help someone in a heightened emotional state regain stability and clarity. That is exactly what Gamaliel did. A respected teacher of the law (v. 34), he addressed the leaders with composure in the midst of their emotional chaos. His clarity, confidence, and controlled tone brought stability to the room.
He urged them to “consider carefully what you intend to do” (v. 35), inviting them to pause before acting on impulse.

In fight‑or‑flight, the brain prioritizes speed over accuracy. Tunnel vision sets in, making long‑term consequences nearly invisible. In this case, their impulsivity could have led to murdering Peter and John—and ultimately fighting against God Himself (vv. 33, 39).

Gamaliel’s calm intervention helped them become partially regulated, just enough for their prefrontal cortex to come back online so they could think more clearly. That pause opened the door for the rest of his reasoning.

He reminded them that other self‑made movements had risen and fallen because they were from human efforts. But if the apostles were truly sent by God, nothing could stop them and opposing them would mean opposing God, with serious consequences.

Gamaliel’s argument was persuasive because he engaged them with respect, steadiness, and emotional control.

The thought of fighting against God persuaded them. They released the apostles, but not without one last jab of pride and anger: they flogged them and issued another threat.
Yet the apostles left rejoicing that they were counted worthy to suffer for Christ, and they continued preaching daily.

Let's compare the groups around them:

* The religious leaders surrounded themselves with people who were power‑hungry, egotistical, hypocritical, and self‑serving. They were committed to personal gain.

* The apostles were surrounded by believers who were of one accord, sharing everything, meeting needs, strengthening one another, and living for Christ out of love and gratitude (Acts 4). They were committed to Christ and one another.

Reflection:
Who you associate with deeply influences how you face challenges and how you handle strong emotions.

- Are you surrounded by people who fuel jealousy, anger, fear, and confusion - or by people who encourage you, pray for you, and strengthen your faith?

- Who is your Gamaliel—the person who helps you calm down when you’re dysregulated, yet still speaks truth without compromise?

If you need support learning emotional regulation and helpful coping strategies, please reach out to see how Christian mental health coaching can help support you.

Peace and Blessing,
Carolyn Vargas M.A., CLC, PMHC
860-940-0590

Call now to connect with business.